You meet the “Person of your dreams”…You date, move in together…maybe even take it as far as get married. Big wedding, spend thousands to make sure that all of your guest see how truly lucky and happy you both become. Years down the line, maybe even months…Something is up. Your spouse decides that they like to hang out a lot, or have friends of the opposite sex. That’s normal…Until these friends become “close friends“. Then you found out that your partner is secretly seeing this person when you don’t know. You later on find out that pictures are being exchanged…Not family photos, but pictures of your spouse and maybe even some nude ones. Already you have broken a rule about privacy, so they have one up on you. That alone seems to be the reason why your argument turns to shit because they are more pissed about you “Checking behind them“!
Some time goes by and then you find out that your spouse is going out to lunch and dinner with people you don’t know…of the opposite sex. You confront them…Yet again, another argument against the trust you have and the trust you have broken by invading their privacy. Never once is that spouse concerned about what you found, but the damage you are doing to the marriage/relationship that you both share by “Checking behind them“!
So what do you do. You love this person, but you love you, just a little bit more…Do you go flirt with that one hot person that has been on you since the day that you saw them? Do you cheat for revenge? Do you make some new friends of your own to fill the void left by your lying mate? Do you work it out…try to talk about the things you find out? Or do you just finally give up and walk away after all the time, money and love invested in this relationship?
I don’t know about you, but I would definitely leave after so many mistakes. You can forgive someone only so many time for the repeated, selfish mistakes that they make. You shouldn’t have to keep checking what this person is doing behind your back because they broke your trust in the beginning. You don’t need to waste your time on someone that clearly shows time and time again they can not be trusted. All of that energy spent on getting mad, trying to figure out what you did wrong so you can make it right, can be spent on someone else who is well deserving and won’t compromise your marriage/relationship for the atttention (physical or mental) of another. There are good people out there who truly want only what the heart is promised. A good, honest and loving partner.
Don’t let that person make you think you are wrong for having concerns, or make you feel insecure and crazy! Keep your self esteem up and sanity in line…They are not worth it, and they show that they aren’t because they are not good enough to love you and be true. They are garbage and you deserve better. Don’t settle for what may be an eternal mistake! Pack up and go…Get a Snapple and some cookies, then call it a day! You can always start from scratch. True love is worth finding even if that means getting your heart broken a few times…
